Harnessing the Power of True Desire to Transform Your Life

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For years, I watched people work harder and harder, only to feel stuck or burned out. I’ve done it myself—pouring effort into goals that looked “right” on paper but never manifested the way I wanted them to, or sometimes not at all.

What I’ve learned, both from my 30 years on a spiritual path and as a holistic transformation coach, is this: True Desire is the real fuel that helps us reach our goals and receive what we want in this world.

True Desire isn’t just about “wanting” something. The process of bringing a True Desire into the world can apply to anything—from something as simple as a new outfit, to building a successful business, or finding a soulmate. True Desire is the inner spark that aligns your energy, choices, and actions. Knowing what you truly desire is the essential first step to receiving it. Because when you’re tapped into it, momentum flows. When you’re not, even the simplest step feels like a struggle.

At Pathfinder 1to1, I talk about the difference between True Desire and Expected Desire:

• True Desire comes from your core—it lights you up, fuels persistence, and challenges you to grow. It’s always additive; it expands you without taking away from others.

• Expected Desire is shaped by outside voices—what you “should” want, what culture, family, or fear tells you to chase. It often leaves you drained, unmotivated, or endlessly striving without fulfillment.

The shift from pursuing an Expected Desire to aligning with a True Desire changes everything. When your goals connect to your authentic desire, obstacles don’t derail you—they refine you. Progress stops feeling like force and starts feeling like flow.

That’s why I’m passionate about helping clients learn to identify and use their True Desire to actually get what they want—because it’s the root cause of sustainable success. When you Focus Internal, aligning with your True Desires, you naturally Transform External—creating real-world results that last.

Over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing the 5 Universal Rules of Desire—principles I teach in workshops and coaching that govern how desire works, so you can take the first steps toward receiving everything you want.

✨ Until then, I’ll leave you with this: When your desire is true, your results can’t help but follow.

And if you’re ready to take this deeper, check out Pathfinder’s Desire Training Program.